In our interactions with our partners, practicing empathy loving an addict and understanding is key. It is important to separate the person from their addiction and approach them with empathy and understanding. This approach helps in building trust and fostering a safe space for open communication. However, it is equally important to prioritize your own well-being and practice self-care. Taking care of yourself ensures that you have the strength and resilience to be there for your partner.
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- If your partner is still actively engaged in drug or alcohol use, it can have significant negative effects on your well-being and the relationship.
- Our early days were a bit shaky, and we had a few years where we struggled.
The only person you have any control over is yourself. You do not have control over anything the addicted person does. Many people choose not to believe this, but that doesn’t make it any less true.
Codependency in Relationships
Your mind makes you think you’re a bad person for walking away, and what if something happens because you weren’t there? Once he knew I found out, after months of lying, he shut me out. He claimed he wanted only me, he will move mountains etc etc while lying to me for months about relapsing. I felt guilt like maybe I was too hard on him, maybe I should have listened more, etc even though he put himself here.
Lessons I learned the hard way.
Before Christmas, I too phoned hospitals and felt helpless as to who to reach out to. His family don’t know and I won’t tell my friends; they would be appalled that I’m mixed up with this. Learning how to say no without feeling guilty, setting higher standards and standing up for myself are all things that I have learned are important aspects of maintaining my sobriety.
- I keep trying to change him, bring back the man i once knew.
- Even one meal together per week can have a significant impact.
- I wanted to understand and stop these patterns and live a happier life less focused on pleasing others.
- It is not the person who lies, but their addiction.
- This can manifest in various ways, such as making excuses for the addict, covering up their actions, or sacrificing one’s own needs for the addict.
- I’d already seen disturbing changes in her—erratic behavior, unreliability, dishonesty, evasiveness—and I wanted to address the problem before it got any worse.
- I set up a small area where he can do it somewhat safely, but it still scares me and I would rather him not at all.
- Understanding addiction and recovery is essential to comprehend the challenges that may arise.
- You may be aware of the need for getting your own treatment for a substance use disorder.
Additionally, it is important to learn about the process of recovery. Recovery from addiction is a lifelong journey that involves overcoming physical dependence on drugs or alcohol and addressing psychological, emotional, and behavioral issues. Educating ourselves about the recovery process enables us to provide the necessary support and encouragement to our partner.
